Many communities may have loosened their nut when it comes to younger men looking for older women. Despite this, the toughest call to make comes when you finally have to make it official to the parents, and you have no idea where to start. At this point, hell might break loose just any minute and thus requires a lot of calculations to make this call. Maybe it is just part of being parents, but be sure to receive contention from them. Their perception of ageless dating still hasn’t fully conquered with that of our generation. Anyway, if you have taken your time and you are confident this is what will make your life, then here are some tips on how to get your parents to swim along in your boat.
Prepare both parties in advance
Nothing can be more embarrassing than being rejected by the parents on sight. To lessen chances of this happening to your date, make sure you have created a groundwork for what each one of them is to expect from the other. These may include dietary preferences and restrictions or conversations to avoid. Ensure they know as much as possible about each other.
It is all about the timing
Know your parents well, choose a wise opportunity especially when they are all jovial and calm and cease the moment. Make sure they are not stressing over something else when you decide to mention her. Also, be direct and be calm as you tell them. They have all the reason for not accepting at first and even if they seem upset, it is probably because of the shock. Do not lash out at them.
Praise her in front of them
The point here is to try to make your parents understand and like her as much as you do. To achieve this, illuminate on her high points and achievements. While this makes her feel you are proud of her, it also makes the parents see the good in her. If she is a good cook, say it, don’t wait for her to blow her whistle, it might create the wrong impression.
You need to look at things the way she sees them. She is not as comfortable as you are at home. Whether it’s a game you and your folks are playing or she is being teased by the father, you are her only cheerleader. You need to show the parents that you two are perfect complements. Don’t leave her in the living room alone and go to catch up with your brother in the other room.
Dating an older woman is confident, fun and ambitious. You would be nervous introducing any other girlfriend anyway, so it is just normal if you are nervous at first. If she is a keeper, however, she will also be keen on making your parents like her which reduce your burden too. By observing the above, you can rest assured your relationship stands on more solid grounds.